How To Stay Calm For First Time Expecting Moms

How to Stay Calm for First Time Expecting Moms

When I grabbed the pregnancy test and stepped into the bathroom at 5 am to see if it was going to be positive, I just had this feeling it would say yes. So, I waited and I noticed two lines starting to appear, I looked out into the kitchen to Adam and said, “Oh my God, I am pregnant!?” He just looked at me like I was joking, and came to look. He saw the lines and said well it isn’t a very dark line so I bet you are not. Little did he know when you see even the faintest line, you are! It got darker as the minutes clicked on!

I will never forget that moment, I was filled with like a million emotions all at once and began to cry! I was so full of fear, worry, excitement, amazement, shock, and everything else in between! We lost our first baby to a miscarriage, so my first fear was please don’t let that happen again! It is such a surreal moment when you first learn you are pregnant!

Since then I have had some ups and downs along the way, but I will be 36 weeks tomorrow! We are so close to the end, and we can’t wait to meet Clay! He is going to be such a blessing to our family, and change our lives for the good in so many ways!

With that said, the past few months have been so hard and overwhelming. I have had morning sickness the whole time, it has let up here and there but never went away. My emotions have been like a yo-yo, highs and lows and they bounce back and forth often! I have had many moments where I cry cause I am hurting or for no reason just scared. I have had moments where I get butterflies thinking of who Clay will look like, his personality and such!

I thought it might be nice to share some tips on how to stay calm for first time expecting moms! These are a few things that I have been told or done myself to try and relax.

Don’t Believe What You Read Online: This is the first one because it is the biggest thing you need to skip! You will have so many aches and pains and if you run to the internet and read these horror stories it lets your mind wonder and you will instantly become anxious! It is okay to read some stuff, but don’t always believe it. Or I should say don’t assume that is going to happen to you. Most of the time, people who have the worst experiences are the first to run and share their experience, and those who had no trouble don’t take the time to share their story. So, be cautious if you google, don’t obsess over everything you read!

Read Books About What To Expect or Download Apps on Phone: I think not knowing that the twinge in your side is totally normally can have you on edge non-stop. Most moms don’t realize when you are first pregnant and throughout it, you cramp, have little aches and pains and most of the time they are all just the normal pains that go along with growing that baby! So grabbing a book that can give you insight on what to expect will help. Each week will come with new symptoms and milestones for your little baby! They also have apps you can download for free on your phone to give you tips and such for the week you are on! The Baby Center My Pregnancy App is my favorite.

Talk to Family or Friends: Find a person or two, who is very supportive and can give you positive affirmations along the way. If you don’t have anyone, the baby boards on some apps is another great place to get support. Tell them when you are anxious, and allow them to help calm you down. You don’t have to keep it all bundled inside, stressing over it. Worrying so much isn’t good, and sharing how you feel will help relax you when you are told it is totally normal to have those fears and worries! Reaching out and talking to your doctor or nurse is also great, if you have questions! That way you get a true answer for the issue you are having.

Remember Many Many Many Women Have Had Babies Over the Years: This is a huge one, so many women out there have had babies over the years. They survived it and so will you! We all are a first time mom sometime, and you go through a lot of unknown moments but in the end you make it through! Some women have multiple babies, and in that, it should help boost our confidence that this is do-able and we will overcome and bring our babies into the world and start a new chapter in our books!

Those are my top tips for new moms and how not to stress so much! They have helped me a lot. Granted I still have freak out moments, but I try to calm myself down with these tips! Hope this helps you!

If you have had a baby before, what is a tip you would share with expectant moms on how to stay calm during the 9 months?! 

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Weeks 33-35 Pregnancy Update + Baby Bump Picture!

pregnancy update

Boy have I missed you all! I missed a few weeks of my pregnancy updates as we moved and didn’t have internet! Now that it is back on and running, I thought I would just bundle the past few weeks together for you to get caught up on everything!

I had a doctors appointment earlier this week, and all is looking good still. I will go at the end of the month for my ultrasound to ensure he is still growing properly and everything is looking good. Have the 2-vessel umbilical cord has made it to where I get ultrasounds every 4 weeks to ensure he is doing okay. So far we have had no troubles! I then will have a doctor appointment right after and get checked for the first time to see if I am dilating and do the strep-b test. Not gonna lie, I have heard getting checked can hurt, so I am a bit nervous!

It is just unreal we are so very close the the end of this pregnancy! In a little bit baby Clay will be here, I just can’t wait to see what he looks like, and get to cuddle him!

pregnancy bump picture

So here is my 33-35 Pregnancy Update, hope you all enjoy!

Size of Baby: Being 35 weeks he is the size of a honeydew melon. Weighs approximately 5.25 lbs. He is growing bigger and bigger each day, and getting ready to come join the world in a few weeks!

Movement: This little guy is so active lately! You can really tell he is growing as his movements are so much stronger. If I have my hand in the right spot when he moves you can almost feel his arm or leg, it is really neat. I love getting to experience him moving around in there, it is like I learn his personality!

Body and Changes: This belly is growing bigger and bigger daily I think! I have noticed I have a bigger appetite lately. I am eating bigger portions and eating often, as I can’t quite get rid of the starving feeling! I have been having a lot more braxton hick contractions, they are getting uncomfortable! I also have been having issues with my hip, it just hurts and makes it hard to walk around with ease. I have a waddle, and sometimes the thought of getting up and moving around makes me want to cry! I’m just uncomfortable and low energy.

Sleep: From my last update, I am happy to say I am sleeping a bit better. Some nights I am still up a lot, but other nights I sleep pretty good through the night. Last night was perfect, I only got up once and slept the rest of the night. I won’t lie I am still exhausted, and I have started napping here and there to help give me some energy!

Emotions: You never know how I will be! Emotions are like a roller coaster still, up and down. I think with the move and knowing our due date is around the corner I am a bit more on edge hoping to get things ready as I can for when he is here!

Belly Button In or Out: Still in, but super stretched!

Morning Sickness: My morning sickness has for sure come back a bit stronger. It never fully went away but it wasn’t as strong as how it was in the beginning and now it is a bit stronger. This morning was a really rough start, but I am feeling a bit better now!

Cravings: KFC chicken with mashed potatoes and green beans, ice cream, fresh fruit, and starting to crave sour stuff again.

What I Miss: Moving around at a normal pace. It takes me forever to do anything, I am just slow from hurting and being uncomfortable!

What I Am Looking Forward To: Meeting Clay! I can’t wait to get to meet him and see his sweet face, hear he is perfect and can start our new life as a little family!

Next Doctor Appointment: September 29th.

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32 Weeks Pregnancy Update

32 Weeks Pregnancy Update

Here we are again with another weekly update! I am not officially 32 weeks along and here to share the latest stuff that is going on with little baby Apley! He is growing bigger and bigger, as is my belly! We had my 32 week sonogram on Monday as well as a doctors appointment right after.

The sonogram went good, we got a call he is in the 54th percentile of growth, and still measuring ahead a bit. She said everything else looked good and they are going to let me wait and see them in 3 weeks instead of 2. Doctors appointment went good as well, it was super quick, just measured my stomach, listened to heart beat, and talked to the doctor for a minute. I think possibly at my next appointment or potentially the one after I will start getting checked to see if I am dialating and such.

Without further chatter, here is my 32 weeks pregnancy update! You can see what has been going on, and at bottom see a sonogram picture!

32 weeks pregnant Size of Baby: He weights about the same size of a large jicama, which I am not sure what that even is. I am growing like crazy in my tummy area, and I have read that means he is gaining and growing as well. He is plumping up and gaining almost half of his body weight by the time I will deliver.

Movement: He is moving around good, every sonogram they always say how active he is! I can tell he is growing bigger because his movements are so much stronger. I can feel when he rolls around in there, sometimes it does feel a little uncomfortable, but I am so thankful to feel him moving and know he is doing good!

Body and Changes: I am growing so much each day, it seems like my belly is just getting bigger and bigger. I am having so much more aches and pains, in my hips and pelvic area. I know it is my body stretching and doing its thing for me as I am getting closer to deliver.

Sleep: Well, sleep isn’t going that great. I am up multiple times through the night to go potty, and then I can’t get back to sleep. I normally wake up around 2 and stay up till 4-5 am, then I can sleep for a little bit. It makes it hard to have the energy during the day, but I know this is something that most pregnant women go through.

Emotions: Man oh man I am all over the place. We are closing on our new house on Monday, so I think this plays a big role! But, I am super emotional all the time, I cry often, and get super emotional out of the blue! Plus, I was talking to my doctor and he said in the end it is normal to become extra emotional, as you are preparing for birth and the start of a new chapter having a baby!

Belly Button In or Out: Still in, but super stretched!

Morning Sickness: I have been dealing with a lot of nausea lately. I have found when my belly seems to be growing a lot I will get nauseated quite a bit. Luckily medicine helps get it calmed down most of the time!

Cravings: Corn bread, peaches, alfredo noodles, and protein a lot. Anything with meat or cheese is always something I want. I still have yet to have a weird mix of food cravings! I also have been wanting sweets a lot.

What I Miss: Having energy! I am just wore out a lot, or get wore out super quick, so being able to have a normal energy level would be great.

What I Am Looking Forward To: Having him here and starting our lives with him. I can’t wait to see his face and get to hug and kiss on him!!!

Next Doctor Appointment: September 14th.

toesHere is a little picture from the sonogram we did, of his little toes! How cute are they?!

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31 Weeks Pregnancy Update

31 Weeks Pregnancy Update

Another week has come and gone, I am just shocked at how fast time is going by! Here is my 31 weeks pregnancy update, on what has been happening and the changes I am going through! I will say this past week has been a bit of a bumpy road. I haven’t felt the best and with packing and getting ready to move and all the added stress has been a bit much, but by the grace of God I am getting through it!

Size of Baby: This week the baby board says he weighs as much as a coconut, and measures over 16 inches long. It also said I should be having more Braxton Hick Contractions lately as my body prepares for labor, and I will say I have been having a lot!

Movement: This little guy has been pretty active, I can tell he is growing away as the movements are stronger and really moving my tummy more. You can see his huge kicks, and movements, which is so neat. Some days he moves so much and other days he is a little less on the movement.

Body and Changes: My bump is growing more and more. I wish I had the energy to take time for pictures to show you, I am hoping next week I can! It has been a rough week with all the Braxton Hick Contractions, aches and pains so I have been a bit lazy. It seems like everyday my tummy gets bigger. My hips have been hurting a lot more, I know it is just the stretching and such it needs to do for labor and delivery. My feet and hands have gotten swollen here and there more often.

Sleep: What is sleep?! Hahha just kidding, sleeping is a bit rough for me lately. I wake up a minimum of 3-4 times a night. It is taking forever to get to sleep and then it isn’t good sleep through the night. There are times I am up for a few hours through the night with either not feeling good or unable to sleep.

Emotions: This has been the worst week I have had so far this whole pregnancy. I have cried a lot, got very emotional and just struggled a lot. I think moving and all that goes with closing on a house, hoping to sell the current house we live in, preparing for labor, is all overwhelming me. Hopefully I can get my emotions a little less of a struggle soon!

Belly Button In or Out: Still in, but super stretched!

Morning Sickness: My morning sickness is coming back a little stronger the past week, which is a little disappointing! I have read your morning sickness can come back in the 3rd trimester and I am feeling it. I have had morning sickness through my whole pregnancy but it has peaked a bit more this past week like how it was in the 1st trimester.

Cravings: Fresh fruit, orange juice, lots of protein, and sweets.

What I Miss: Having energy! Trying to get stuff packed and ready to move is really hard. I wear out super quick and just don’t get much done at a time. BUT I am getting there so it is all ok!

What I Am Looking Forward To: Holding Clay for the first time.

Next Doctor Appointment: August 24th! We have a sonogram in the morning and then doctor appointment right after!

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30 Weeks Pregnancy Update + Bump Pictures!

30 Weeks Pregnancy Update

I can’t believe it is time for my 30 weeks pregnancy update, that just boggles my mind! This pregnancy has flown by, it seems like yesterday we found out we were pregnant! We are so so excited to start this new chapter in our lives. We get told all the time to enjoy our lives now, but we have lived a married life for years just Adam and I, so we are looking forward to having our little guy with us to make new memories with, and to love on!

We have been buying some baby items and getting stuff prepped and ready! I can’t believe he is so close to being here. One thing I really wanted was the 4Moms Mamaroo Bouncer , and my sister got it for me! I can’t wait for him to swing in it for the first time!

Thank you all who have been following our journey so far, we can’t wait for you all to get to see little Clay and watch him grow up with us! I know he will be such a blessing in our lives!

30 Weeks


Size of Baby: Clay is the size of a cabbage this week! He is just growing away in there! I think I have felt him have hiccups here and there, which was really cute! It means he is doing exactly what he should in practicing to breath.

Movement: He seems to be very active, he loves to just wiggle around in there various times of the day! It is such a special feeling to be able to feel him moving around and feeling his kicks and movements get stronger and stronger!

Body and Changes: I am just growing away! I haven’t noticed stretch marks yet, but I think they will be coming very soon. The past few weeks my belly has been growing so much more. Been a bit more tired than what I have been!

Sleep: Sleep and I have not been seeing eye to eye. It takes me a long time to get to sleep at night. Then I wake up multiple times a night and sometimes I can’t get to sleep so I stay up for a few hours. But I know it is preparing me for when Clay is here and him being fed and changed and stuff.

Emotions: A lot more emotional now-a-days! But I read that is totally normal. I have been having a little more anxiety as well, but they say that is normal too! It is a huge life change coming up, I worry will I be a good mom, and do things right, and so on. Plus the whole thought of labor and delivery is scary as so many things can happen, the pain you hear about, it is a lot to take in. But I have a good support system to help calm me down if I am freaking out a bit.

Belly Button In or Out: Still in, but super stretched!

Morning Sickness: Being nauseated here and there is still going on. I think it is something to deal with the rest of my pregnancy. It is SO much better than in the beginning, but it is still a struggle! I keep telling myself the end is so close and hopefully soon it will all go away!

Cravings: I have not had any off the wall cravings with mixed foods and such. I just love sweets, fresh fruit, potatoes still, and really wanting cheesecake all the time!

What I Miss: Being able to do stuff and my belly not getting in the way. We are moving and starting to pack and carrying boxes is a little awkward when I try to move it, as my belly is sticking out pretty good!

What I Am Looking Forward To: Holding Clay for the first time. Getting to share that special moment with Adam, and we can meet our son for the first time! I truly am so excited for that moment!

Next Doctor Appointment: August 24th! We have a sonogram in the morning and then doctor appointment right after!

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